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Sex Positions for Ninjas: 6 Skills That'll Give You Bragging Rights

(Courtesy of Kinkly.com)

Takeaway: These positions require unusual strength, agility and concentration. In other words, they aren't for amateurs.

Source: Wisky/Dreamstime.com

Also note that while I recognize that (most of) these positions can be done by two men or two women, for ease of use, I chose to use the terms that would apply to the writer, interspersed with generic terms like "performer" and "receiver." 

The Cartwheel

In this acrobatic position, the receiver stands on his head, against a wall, using his hands to steady him (like he’s about to do a cartwheel). The performer stands in front of him with her back to him and her feet at either side of his head. She then bends over and allows her partner to insert his penis. Yes, really.

Difficulty: 9

Challenge: In this position, the male partner has to remain balanced, breathing and relaxed enough to stay hard AND not faint from the blood rushing to his head. His partner doesn't have it easy either: She has to set the momentum while keeping him at an angle that’s comfortable for both while not tipping him over.

Pair of Tongs

In this position, the woman lays on the bed sideways with half her torso hanging over the side of the bed, supporting herself with one arm on the floor. (For an added challenge, do this freestanding, as shown below.) The man, stands facing her and grabs hold of her waist. He then uses his leg to hold down her lower leg, while he holds her upper leg and inserts his penis.



Difficulty: 5
Challenge: The woman is going to have to have fantastic upper body strength and balance to stay steady here. Her partner won't exactly be slacking here either, as he'll have to support much of her weight too. It might just be more exciting than a typical yoga class though.

The Big and Little Dipper

These two require strength, but they aren't entirely unrealistic. In the Big Dipper position, the man sits on the couch, stretches his arms behind him and puts his feet on a coffee table or ottoman. The woman straddles him, while he uses his arms to push himself up and down, hence the name. Then there’s the Little Dipper, in which these positions are essentially reversed. The man lays supine on top of a big pillow on the floor next to the couch. The woman assumes the position of the male in the Big Dipper except she rises and falls onto her partner's erect penis.








Difficulty: 8
Challenge: The person with the penis (or a strap-on!) has to be in impeccable shape to do what your personal trainer might call "triceps dips" for any length of time. In addition, the person doing the work has to have the concentration of a monk to remain balance and continue to hit the target. There are way too many opportunities to miss here and thrust a buttock down on an erect penis. And that, my friends, is how your evening turns into date night at the emergency room.

The Overpass (or the Torture Twister)

The fact that this one has the word "torture" in its name should provide a hint as to its difficulty. Here, the woman (or receiver) lays on her back and lifts her feet up and over her head so her toes touch the floor behind her head. Her thighs are resting against her torso and her knees are by her ears. The man (or the performer) straddles himself over the woman’s genitals, putting one foot by the receiver's head and one by her side or back. The performer then thrusts, like he’s getting up and down off a chair, into the anus or vagina.




Difficulty: 10
Challenge: The woman or receiver, must stay steady while her internal organs are being scrunched against her ribcage and her partner's thrusts put continued pressure on her shoulders and neck. But he has challenges too. He must angle his upward facing cock into a downward position for entry or bend over his partner so he can enter at a more convenient angle. This position is not for amateurs. If you are able to complete it without injury, I give you serious props. If you can manage to enjoy it, you're a true sex ninja.

The Booster Seat

In this position, both partners face the couch or bed with the woman (or receiver) in front of the man (or performer). While holding her waist, she puts her feet on the bed while he holds her up so that she appears to be sitting in a chair. The man can enter her vaginally or anally, and help support her as she moves up and down.



Difficulty: 7
Challenge: The male (or the female with a strap-on) definitely needs incredible upper arm strength and the woman (or receiver) needs thighs of steel. Momentum is the key here, but if you are in-sync and in-shape you might be able to pull this one off.

The Anal Bumper Cars

Whee ... this one sounds like fun. But I'm not sure it's possible - or a good idea. Here, the lovers position themselves stomach down, facing in opposite directions with the man (the performer) on top. The woman should shimmy down toward her partner's feet so that his penis is lined up with the anus, as she is face down under him, with legs spread apart. He then proceeds to enter her anally.




Difficulty: 10
Challenge: I cannot imagine any situation where this might be physically possible. Even if there's a penis long enough for this out there, it would be at a downward angle, which, as we know, is the exact opposite natural direction for an erect penis. If you try this one, be very careful not to stretch the performer’s cock farther than it should comfortably go or you might end up at the emergency room (again) making up far-fetched stories.

Go Forth and Be (Cautiously) Adventurous

Adventurous sex positions can make for a pretty exciting time - as long as no one gets hurt. These positions aren't for amateurs, so unless you've done a stint in the Cirque du Soleil, you might be better off trying something new - but slightly less ambitious. So, save the ninja antics for porn stars. After all, you can always watch.

If you’re a sex geek like me, you’re probably familiar with all the different positions for sex and have tried, well, most of them. But guess what? I just found some sexual positions that confounded, yet intrigued, me. Positions that, unless you had mad skills of strength, agility and concentration while sexually aroused, you wouldn’t be able to pull off. So, for those adventurous (or curious) people out there, here are six impractical positions for sexual ninjas. I've rated them in difficulty from one to 10. 

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6 Apps to Improve Your Sex Life

For all of my sex geeks and techies out there... I thought you would appreciate this article found on Kinkly... Hope you enjoy!

6 Apps to Improve Your Sex Life

By Lauren Katulka, January 16, 2014

Takeaway: These sex-themed apps prove the old theory that there really are apps for everything!

Source: Eduard Bonnin Turina/Dreamstime.com

Purists might argue that cell phones have no place in the bedroom, but with one in five young people admitting to playing with their phones during sex, it's clear that not everyone agrees. If you can’t bear to put your phone aside for some nookie, at least make sure it’s loaded with these sexy, educational apps. (And if you're into high-tech sex, you should also check out Get Your Geek On - and Get Off!)

Kahnoodle

Kahnoodle markets itself as more of a relationships app than a sex app, but it has an important part to play if you hope to get to the bedroom. It helps couples remember the art of romance with digital love "koupons" and thank-you notes known as "kudos". Do enough thoughtful things for your partner to keep your "love tank" full. 

Much of the app is centered around sweetness, but koupons for bubble baths and a place for secret instant messages have sensual potential. The extra injection of romance should also help you feel more like intimacy. 

Kahnoodle is available for the iPhone, iPad, and iPod Touch - and it's free. Its creators are set to launch an Android app soon too.

Spreadsheets

Calling all sex geeks! Ever wonder what your loving is like for your partner? If the feedback your partner offers isn’t specific enough, Spreadsheets might be the app for you. It uses your phone’s accelerometer and microphone to analyze your sex speed, thrusts per minute, and even how loudly you moan. 

Spreadsheets also contains a calendar function for scheduling in sexy time and cataloging memorable trysts. Competitive types are likely to love the scoring system, which awards 10 points for morning quickies and 20 for leisurely weekend sessions. 

Spreadsheets is available for the iPhone, iPad, and iPod Touch for $1.99.

Passion

If all the detail provided by Spreadsheets is a bit too technical for you, Passion might suit you better. It similarly judges the duration of your sexual encounters, the power of your thrusting, and the volume of your orgasms. Then, it condenses all this data into a simple score out of 10. 

Of course, not every madly thrusting lover with an ear-shattering scream is truly worthy of a high score, but this app is a fun gimmick. If you’re feeling good about your score you can also compare it with other couples around the world. 

Passion is available for the iPhone, iPad, and iPod Touch for 99 cents.

Sex Drive

Sex Drive uses binaural beats technology to improve your sex life. These beats of various frequencies are said to be scientifically calibrated to impact brain waves and arouse emotions in the listener. Without any large-scale research the jury’s still out on the effectiveness of binaural beats, but the app’s cheap enough for anyone interested to take a gamble. 

It’s also worth noting that Sex Drive was designed for men, although the creators claim women "may get enjoyment" from the audio as well. Scientific or not, if you think sexy, sexy things are bound to happen.

Sex Drive is available for the iPhone, iPad and iPod Touch for $1.99.

iKamaSutra

The ancient Eastern lovemaking art of Kama Sutra has gone digital with the launch of the iKamaSutra app. Users are encouraged to master more than 100 sexual positions in nine categories, and to progress from novice to Kama Sutra master. Exhibitionists can even share achievements with Facebook and Twitter friends!

It might have been deemed too saucy for iTunes, but the simple, silhouetted illustrations ensure there’s nothing too scandalous about this app. It aims to inform rather than titillate, with clear instructions and accompanying diagrams demonstrating the Kama Sutra's time-honored positions. You can save your favorite positions to try again later or put the ones that intrigue you on your to-do list. 

The full version of iKamaSutra, with extra positions and three-dimensional illustrations, is available for Android devices and Windows phones for $2.99. A free lite version is also available. (Or check out Kinkly's very own Sex Position Playlist. Just sayin' ...) 

iCondom

Safer sex is sexy sex. The iCondom app aims to make your sex life safer by becoming the world’s largest condom distribution map to ensure you’ll never be caught without contraception again. The app is a joint effort between its creators and MTV’s Staying Alive campaign, a global initiative that promotes HIV prevention and safe lifestyle choices. 

iCondom uses GPS technology to track your location. It then maps your nearest condom dispensers and retailers. Users can add additional locations and comment on dispensaries with details such as opening hours or out-of-order machines.

iCondom is available for the iPhone, iPad, and iPod Touch for free.

Sexy Vibes

With the advent of vibrating ring tones it was only a matter of time before someone (officially) turned our smartphones into sex toys. The creators of Sexy Vibes have done it and more than 1.5 million fans are glad they did! 

The app offers plenty of vibrating modes including the gentle "Fluffy Bunny" and the intense "Washing Machine." You can even remote control the phones of others using the app, and chat with them. How's that for a sexy night in? (Just make sure you invest in a waterproof case before firing this app up!)

Sexy Vibes is available for Android devices for free.

Spice It Up

There's nothing wrong with adding a new tool to spice up your sex life, but whether you pick up a sex toy or your smartphone, it should never steal the show. The real magic will be between you and your partner, not you and your phone. 

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Boost Your Sexual Arousal

You may have heard of them... but do you really know what arousal creams and gels are?

An arousal cream/gel is applied to the clitoris, vaginal lips, g-spot, or penis to enhance sexual arousal.  This is accomplished by increasing blood flow to the genitals and making the nerves more responsive.

Many arousal products contain menthol, mint oil, clove oil, or niacin.  These ingredients give a warm & cool tingle by enhancing blood flow to the area it is applied to.  These sensations can be very stimulating.  Some arousal gels contain L-argenine, which increases blood flow and is also used to speed wound healing.  (Products containing niacin and clove oil should not be used by anyone with an STD, aspirin allergy, or on blood thinners.)

Arousal products can be a great asset to anyone interested in increasing their sexual arousal and experimenting with new forms of pleasure and sensations.  They are also helpful for those experiencing sexual arousal issues such as low libido.  Arousal creams can also help to counter some of the sexual side effects of some prescription medications, such as anti-depressants.

To use an arousal cream or gel, apply a pea-sized amount to the clitoris, vaginal lips, or penis during foreplay.  If needed, you can always apply more after the first application to achieve the desired results.

Some of my favorites are:

Cleopatra's Secret Crème
(women)

        Max Pleasure Gel for Men
           (men)

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How to Orgasm From Giving a Blowjob

I found this article today and lets just say I was a little more than intrigued...  Let me know what you think...

December 27, 2013 by Tracy Clark-Flory

Joanna Van Vleck loves giving blow jobs. Not in the way that some ladies claim to love it just to get high-fives from the guys. Not even because it makes her feel sexy to give a man pleasure. The 30-year-old president of One Taste, a company dedicated to teaching women “orgasmic meditation” (or "OM"), gives BJs because they feel good — to her. Like, actually physically pleasurable. 

THIS IS A WOMAN WHO EXISTS IN THE WORLD.

Before you hate her for setting up yet more unrealistic sexual expectations for women, know that she wants to teach us her ways. And her new “oral sex for her” (no, she doesn’t mean cunnilingus, really) video is explicit. Could she possibly be onto something? For the good of all womankind — but mostly myself — I set to find out. 

Little did I know that our one-on-one BJ lesson would take place in a busy San Francisco coffee shop. Not that Van Vleck minded. She seemed oblivious to the middle-aged man sitting next to us, visibly straining to execute a poker face, and the young waiter inexplicably sorting through a pile of cutlery at a neighboring table (for all his subtlety, he might as well have dramatically unfolded a newspaper and peered over the top at us). Oh, the irony: Learning how to give blow jobs for my pleasure — in front of an audience of leering men.

Luckily, I wasn’t distracted for long, because Van Vleck is a mesmerizing presence. There are her eyes — she has the most magnificently excellent eyelashes you will ever see, I swear — but more importantly, there’s her confidence. You see it in her direct, open gaze and explosive, unselfconscious laugh. As they say at One Taste, she’s a “turned on” woman — a lady who is in touch with her sexuality. She didn’t need to break out in “When Harry Met Sally”-style orgasmic operatics; I already felt like telling our waiter, “I’ll have what she’s having.” 

She wasn't always this way, she says. Just three years ago she was giving blow jobs because she thought "this is what good girlfriends do." After she started practicing "OM" — in which women are, ahem, digitally stroked to erotic bliss by a "meditation" partner — she opened up to the possibility that performing oral sex could actually be pleasurable for her, too. So, she started experimenting.

“It’s your responsibility as a woman to start to get to know what feels good to your body,” Van Vleck told me. There’s only one way to do that: explore. “You have to get into the mindset that you’re going to see what happens and not care what he thinks,” she said. The first time she tried this with a blow job, Van Vleck set a timer for ten minutes, just to take the pressure off. “I specifically told the guy, ‘I’m gonna do this as a research project,’” she said.

She walked me through her inner dialogue while doing this kind of exercise: “What feels good on my lips? What makes my mouth water? I’ll put my hand around it and go, ‘Can I feel his heartbeat?’ I run my tongue along it, did it feel good? I put just the head of it in my mouth, does it feel good in my mouth?” Smell him, pet him, lick him, take a light nibble, maybe even rub your face on it. Get so, so weird. This is all about trying out different sensations all the while paying close attention to how your body reacts, she said, which requires going very slow. See what you can learn — and when the timer goes off, it’s over, dude (sorry not sorry).

The point isn’t to turn him on. In fact, she says a boner is not necessary for this exercise. “For most women, you feel like a failure if his cock is soft,” said Van Vleck, and I nervously eyed the guy sitting next to us, who had clearly perked up at the c-word. “We think, ‘Something’s wrong with me, he must not find me attractive.’” Well, it’s time to get over that. “I actually don’t care if he likes it or not,” she said. “But the crazy thing that happens when you make that switch is that he likes it ten times more.” Everybody wins!

Prioritizing your comfort also might mean avoiding the typical kneel-and-worship approach to blow jobs. “One of the hard things about being on your knees is there’s only so long that that’s comfortable,” says Van Vleck. Her solution? Both of you lie on your sides facing each other, but with your face level with his junk. “It’s like spooning!” exclaimed Van Vleck — only, you know, with a penis in your face.

Once you start actually enjoying blow jobs, Van Vleck suggested moving on to the piece de resistance of her oral technique: deep-throating. (Gulp.) In her instructional video, Van Vleck takes her partner so deep that she begins shaking uncontrollably, tears stream down her face and snot drips out of her nose. “It isn’t pretty,” she said, but Van Vleck describes it as “one of the most pleasurable, blissful things” she’s ever experienced. I was not convinced.

They key, she says, is to take it slow. When he hits your gag reflex, “your body will convulse and the immediate impulse is to push him away,” she said. “Instead, do the exact opposite.” Hold him right where he is, without any movement, and breathe through your nose, she explained. The point, still, is not to make him feel good; Van Vleck says there is “nothing more electric or saturating” for a woman to experience sexually. “The true definition of orgasm is that your body goes into the involuntary,” she told me.

Allow me to voice my strong-standing skepticism: I’m no Lovelace and my epiglottis is not, nor will it ever be, a secret clit. Regardless, I headed home determined to put Van Vleck’s tips to the test.

“The point isn’t to turn you on,” I explained as I sat my husband down and set a 10 minute timer. “You don’t even have to get a boner.” He instantly replied: “That just gave me a boner.” (I’m gonna call that a success?) I gave him the “it’s an experiment” disclaimer at least ten times before we began and, even still, I had to stop in the middle of rubbing him along my nose to say, “OK, but really, this is an experiment.” I was still in the mindset of needing to be “good” at giving a blow job, instead of experimenting with what could feel good to me. I pushed through that feeling — or rather, I licked and nuzzled my way past it.

Giving Van Vleck’s favorite position a try, I felt like a baby curled up to a bottle — not the most arousing sensation. But after a couple minutes, I started to appreciate the supreme couch-potato comfort of this position. There was no rush to the end. I took my own sweet time and he most certainly did not object. Better yet, I was starting to have fun myself. I checked in with my body. Warmth? Check. Tingles? Yep. Wetness? Hell yeah. 

Encouraged by my progress, I decided to jump ahead. Before long, I was gagging, my body tensing up. “Aw, baby,” he said. “You don’t have to—“ he started, but I stopped him with my next determined headlong dive into his crotch. It definitely wasn’t orgasmically pleasurable for me, and he seemed more concerned than anything, but I will admit to a tiny thrill at being so physically vulnerable with him.

All considered, I wouldn’t recommend cramming your fist down your throat to get yourself off, but Van Vleck’s pointers did have a positive impact. They gave me the freedom to focus on my own pleasure and let go of the desire to perform for him. And — timer be damned — what followed my experiment was one of the hottest romps we’ve ever had. It just goes to show: Make yourself feel good and he’ll be right there with you. The End. And Deep Throat to you all.

Photo Credit: One Taste

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