Wednesday, May 28, 2014

TMI Tuesday: May 27, 2014

Preparing the Body

tmi couple_sex
1. Do you prefer your lover:
A) fresh from the bath and perfumed  ~  This really depends on the situation though!
B) fresh from the bath without perfume  ~  Or this one...
c) clean but not right from the tub or shower ~  And sometimes this one...
d) slightly sweaty (or musky)  ~  Not so much this one unless the sweat is from us fucking currently...
2. Do you maintain your body for sex with respect to facial hair, body hair, pubic hair, fingernails or toenails?
Of course... I stay clean shaven (personal preference) with a pedicure.

3. Do you maintain/prepare according to your lover’s preferences?
No... I maintain for my own preferences.  Though I have tried the landing strip instead of clean shaven before at a lover's request (I'm not good with straight lines though, so it was a difficult task).
4. Do you have body adornments such as piercings or tattoos for sexual reasons? Does your lover?
Prior to having my kids, I had my hood pierced for sexual reasons... I loved it!  Tight jeans and sharp curves were oh so fun.  Also had my nipples pierced.  No current piercings but lots of nonsexual tattoos.  No lover currently for me.  

5. Do you choose any cosmetics, lubes, condoms or other sexually relevant items according to how they taste? Do you not use them because of the taste?
I love my Touch of Honey body dust... and Max Head in Sugar Daddy.  I am not a fan of most flavored lubes, but I do like Sliquid Naturals Swirl.
6. Is there a taste or aroma that turns you on or that you can use to turn on your lover?
I love men's cologne... it is a major turn on for me.  I switch up my perfume but Viva La Juicy is my favorite (I am out currently = sad face).

Bonus: Do you prepare a room for sex–mood music, candles, scent, cleaning it or anything? Tell us about it.

It really depends on the situation... I love spontaneous sex, so no room prep there.  For other times... a clean room, mood music, candles, and sex toys that in easy reach.  Variety is the spice of life!

Butt Sex Safety

So you've decided to finally take the plunge (pun totally intended) and try anal play... or maybe you have been enjoying it...  either way, make sure you play by the butt safety rules.  Nothing ruins the mood more than pain or a trip to the emergency room.

Let me start by saying that anal sex/play, when done properly, should NEVER hurt.  I wish someone would have told me that prior to my first try at it!  My first experience was done all wrong, resulting in years of missed fun because I was terrified to try it again.

The anus has tons of nerve endings, making it prime territory to explore solo or with a partner.  The resulting orgasms can be absolutely toe-curling in my experience.  So, what are these butt sex safety rules you ask?  Here are six rules to always follow...

1)  Flare is a Must - When using toys anally, you absolutely MUST use ones with a flared base or hand hold.  This prevents them from getting lost in the rectum (which would definitely require a trip to the ER).  Yes, things can get sucked up and lost in the rectum if there isn't something to stop them.

2)  Don't Go Numb -  Lots of people are eager to dose up with numbing agents such as Anal Eze in hopes of avoiding pain during anal play.  Let me repeat myself here... when done properly, it should never hurt.  I don't suggest using these products (or if you do, then use them sparingly).  Your body sends pain signals to let you know that something is wrong.  If you can't feel what is going on, then you risk serious injury because you don't know when to stop.

3)  Pain Does NOT Equal Gain -  If you are feeling pain, you need to stop and evaluate what might need to be done differently.  You have two sphincters:  the external and the internal.  To relax the external sphincter, all you have to do is release all tension.  To relax the internal sphincter, the body has to have time to adjust.  Pain can be your body's way of telling you that you need to slow down a bit as your sphincters relax.

4)  Keep it Clean - I'm not referring to enemas here, though they are available.  When playing anally, don't insert anything in the vagina that has been in the anus until it has been thoroughly cleaned (this includes fingers, penis, toys, etc.).  If you are using toys, you may use a condom over the toy if it is porous (jelly, UR3).  If using anal beads, choose beads without a porous string connecting them since it cannot be cleaned well and will be a one time use toy.

5)  Lots of Lube - The anus doesn't produce its own lubrication, so using a good lube is a must.  Water-based or silicone lubes work well.  A thicker lube is often preferred ("gel" instead of "liquid").  Their are also special lubes made specifically for anal sex, such as Sliquid Sassy.  Use lots of lube and keep it close by since you may need to reapply.  Keeping things slippery will make things much more comfortable.

6)  Talk it Out -  Communication is the key to great sex.  If you are playing with a partner, it is important to be honest about how it feels, what you want different, and your emotions that go along with it.

What other butt sex safety tips do you have?

Monday, May 19, 2014

TMI Tuesday: May 20, 2014

You are such a character

tmi art monkey in a cage cartoon ep. 6 - you are such a character
1. What is your astrological symbol? Does it fit you?  
I am a Scorpio... and it fits me perfectly!  The more I learn about my sign, the more I think I am the poster child for it's traits.  If I do say so myself, I think I have the best sign there is!
My thoughts exactly...
2. List 3 of the good traits of your astrological symbol to which you can relate.
Highly Sexual, Passionate, Constantly Transforming
3. List 3 of the worst traits of your astrological symbol that you believe do not pertain to you.
Destructive, Hot Tempered, Obsessive
4. What is your Chinese zodiac animal symbol?


5. In Chinese philosophy, The Theory of the Five Elements describes the interaction and relation of natural phenomena. The five elements of wood, fire, Earth, metal and water affect your zodiac sign. Which element are you? 
Earth and Water
Bonus: Briefly tell us something you found interesting about your Chinese zodiac as it pertains to the Five Elements.
My elements represent a conflicting aspect:  Earth can absorb Water, but Water can cover Earth.  Maybe this explains the constant chaos in my life!
Bonus, Bonus: What cartoon/comic character best describes you? Take the short personality test and share your results. Test:
I don't quite agree... but here are my results...
Peter Griffin
You are a family man and you love those close to you, both friends and family. Almost as much as you love your beer and food. You are also a jealous individual and have notoriously bad taste in music, although you can be quite a fine musician under the right circumstances. Your laugh and memory may need a bit of work, as with your stomach region. Nevertheless, you are comfortable with who you are and that is all that really matters.

Sunday, May 18, 2014

Tuesday, May 13, 2014

TMI Tuesday: May 13, 2014

Fill in the blanks.

 1. My favorite month is July because it is perfect skinny dipping weather.

 2. I adore a fresh breeze.

 3. I love a good rough fuck .

 4. A donut (or a dozen) is what I like to have as a treat for breakfast but rich chocolate mousse is what I want for dessert.

 5. The hobby I enjoy most is reading (erotica is my current favorite) .

 6. You saw me the whole time , oh my!

 7. I understand that some people are extremely detrimental to my sanity.

 8. Private jokes inside.

 Bonus: What is it? Explain how you would use it.
This is a Pussy Pop - the person about to give oral sex to a woman puts this in their mouth like a piece of candy.  It comes in a variety of flavors (watermelon is pictured here).  The effect for the receiver of oral is a heightened arousal, cool & tingling sensation, and stronger orgasms.  

Tuesday, May 6, 2014

National Beverage Day

Today is National Beverage Day... 

Try these three cocktail recipes inspired by Fifty Shades of Grey - the Red Room of Pain, a Twitchy Palm, and a Kinky Fuckery on the Rocks.

What is your favorite cocktail recipe?

TMI Tuesday: May 6, 2014

How creative are you?

1. Have you ever had an idea for an invention that you thought would be commercially viable?  If I have, then I can't remember what it was.  
2. Visual arts: Do you do any painting or drawing? Are you a photographer? Sculptor? Ceramist/potter? Silversmith or other? Share one of your favorite works with us, post a photo.   I'm not very artistic, but I love taking pictures to capture memories.  

a. Do you write fiction? Poetry?  I haven't written poetry in years.  I mainly write educational posts, so no fiction either.  I have given thought to writing erotica.

b. Do you make up plots, even if you never write them down?  I have always done this!
4. Do you write music? Do you sing or play a musical instrument?  No, I am not at all musically inclined (my radio stations come in fuzzy).
5. Do you write computer programs?  No.  I am just now learning the technical side of blogging.
a. Do you have a hobby that involves making something?  I love being crafty!  I enjoy all kinds of craft projects: attempting to sew, upcycling, baking & cooking.

b. What is the last thing you made?  I baked a neon blue birthday cake for a friend.  It was bright and yummy!
Bonus: What is it? How would you use it? Write a caption.  This is a phallic sculpture of the Hulk, sold exclusively at high end comic book stores.  It is used as home decor and also doubles as a book end.  
Erotic cucumber
Angry Green Girth