Friday, July 18, 2014

The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy (Review + Giveaway)

The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy, 2nd Edition
How to Have Incredible Sex with Role Play, Sex Games,
Erotic Massage, BDSM Play and Much, Much More
Written by: Violet Blue
Foreword by: Dr. Carol Queen, Ph. D.
Published by:  Celis Press
Publishing July 3, 2014, in celebration of Disobedience Day

Everyone has sexual fantasies... but not everyone knows what to do with them.  The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy: How to Have Incredible Sex with Role Play, Sex Games, Erotic Massage, BDSM Play and Much, Much More is a roadmap to use your fantasies to propel your sex life to the next level.   "Fantasies are your own private, personal sex toys" says Violet Blue.

The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy contains twelve chapters, each addressing a different part of fantasy or fetish play.  Violet Blue does an amazing job normalizing sexual fantasies ranging from the common to the disturbing.  By removing the shame from these thoughts, she leaves you feeling sexually empowered and ready to further explore your own fantasies.  One thing that I really like is that it  is written for everyone (straight, gay, man, woman, transgender, single, or coupled).  This book can be enjoyed by sexual novices and veteran kinksters alike.  It is packed with tons of great information, tips, tricks, and ideas.  There are bits of erotica written by Alison Tyler throughout.  An entire chapter at the end is dedicated to resources including books, websites, where to shop for costumes, and safer sex education.  

Discover how to:
  • Change habits & learn new tricks with masturbation
  • Talk to your partner & bring fantasies into your play together
  • Role play without feeling silly (complete with suggestions on costumes, props, & scenarios)
  • Add new people (threesomes, foursomes, or more) 
  • Strip,  talk dirty, and give an erotic massage
  • Play with professionals (strip clubs, peep booths, phone sex, and call girls)
  • Have sex in public
  • Explore S/M fantasies and different types of fetishes
  • Play sex games

I think this is a great book!  Parts of it were super educational and parts had me laughing out loud.  Other parts had me taking a break to masturbate to my own fantasies.  

Exclusive Excerpt:

Want a taste of what The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy is all about?  The nice folks at Cleis Press have provided the following exclusive excerpt for you.

"Fantasy source material can come from a variety of places. Obviously, there’s your own imagination, but for some, hot ideas spring first from real-life sexual experiences. Real-life experiences can provide endless erotic inspiration, yet for many people what really gets the juices flowing (pardon the pun) is experiences we only wish we’d had. What if you had gone home with that stranger? Or really tried to get out of that speeding ticket?

Other ideas come from movies, music videos, porn, TV shows, books, and of course, erotica. And if you’re not single, some of the steamiest ideas will come from your lover.
Remember that if you fantasize about something shocking, like being forced to perform sex, it doesn’t mean that you want it to happen or that you are a bad person. But by identifying your fantasy scenario, you can find a safe space where imagination fuels desire.

By learning how to turn yourself on with fantasy, you can do extraordinary things, like make yourself really aroused and teach yourself new masturbation techniques. Or you can fantasize while your partner goes down on you, and learn to orgasm from the com- bination of oral stimulation plus fantasy. If you have established trust and sexual communication with a part- ner, you can share your fantasies—you can even make some of them come true. And in the following chapters, I’ll tell you exactly how."

From the Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy, 2nd Ed., by Violet Blue

About the Author:

Violet Blue is the best-selling author of numerous sex-instruction books;  she also writes about erotica, pornography, and sexual pleasure and health for a number of magazines. She blogs at Tiny Nibbles and created the popular podcast, Open Source Sex.  She lives in San Francisco.

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  • Open only to US residents
  • Must be 18+ 
  • Giveaway will run from July 18th - August 17;  winner will be announced the following week
  • Winner has one week to contact me or another winner will be drawn

Buy your copy on Amazon today!  It is available in paperback and on Kindle.

This post is part of the Ultimate Fantasy Blog tour I was offered to participate in by Cleis Press.

A copy of The Ultimate Guide to Sexual Fantasy was provided to me free of charge in exchange for an unbiased review.  This is in compliance with FTC guidelines.


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